What is Karezza?
The emphasis of Karezza is not on sexual passion but spiritual love for another person.
Unlike most sexual activity which is centered around orgasm, the goal of Karezza is to create a deep connection and sense of intimacy with you and your wife or partner.
Practitioners of Karezza engage in sensual bonding activities such as smiling at one another and skin-to-skin contact rather than typical foreplay activities or "pornography type sexual intercourse"
Karezza is much slower with an emphasis on relaxation, syncing your breath together and falling in love.
I know... Sounds boring right? Lol
Don't judge it until you have tried it for yourself. I'm confident this will be some of the BEST SEX you will ever experience.
If you want to know about some of the benefits of Karezza and my own experience with it, check out this YouTube video on my channel.
How to Perform Karezza?
It is important to note that there is no specific way to perform Karezza, in fact it is so simple that there is a tendency to over-think it or think you are not "doing it" properly.
The MOST important part of Karezza is the intention, which is not to orgasm but to connect with your partner on a spiritual level.
To help with your first experience, I have written a process you can follow as a guide.
Make sure you have at least 30 minutes of uninterrupted time. (The best case scenario is to have the entire night for only the two of you. Myself and Sarah tend to spend lots of time afterwards just chatting and wanting to hangout in a non-sexual way because we feel so connected)
Set the scene - light some candles, burn some incense (only if you like the smell, don't do anything that you and your partner don't like) and put on some music. I like to use a sacred sexuality playlist on YouTube or meditation music with binary beats as this helps both of you achieve a meditative state.
Karezza can be practiced in may different positions but I recommend for the first time, the woman straddling the man on a chair as your hearts are very close together. (see picture below for the position)
Have the woman slowly lower herself on top allowing the man to enter her.
Once connected take 5 minutes for you both to do deep belly breathing, trying to be in sync with your breath. Do not worry or try to achieve perfection, the intention to sync together is good enough. You can do this with eyes closed or open, whatever you feel comfortable with.
After you are both feeling relaxed, open your eyes and gaze into each others eyes. Notice what comes up for you... How comfortable are you connecting with your partners eyes? Sit with whatever may come up for you and allow it to be. Keep gazing and you will notice any uncomfortable feelings or thoughts will soon pass leaving you both feeling deeply connected. It is important to note that there is very little movement happening, even no movement at all during Karezza and the man may become soft in this process. That is okay, simply add a little gentle movement to keep an erection. Also, keep breathing deeply, if anyone does reach orgasm, that is also okay. It may take practicing this a few times to start to be able to do it without the need to orgasm, especially for the man.
Add soft touching of the skin. The word Karezza means to caress. If the mood calls for it, add gentle kissing and feel free to express yourself both in thought and words. "I Love You" is always a great place to start and end. (What else truly matters other than love?)
The man at some points can really hold her tight and close to his body. The key here is to embrace her and let her know by your body language and energy that she is fully safe with you.
Because there are no hard and fast rules to Karezza, I would suggest you make the intention to practice this with your partner for 3 weeks, daily or almost daily if you can.
Each time you may experience it differently - both emotionally and physically. In 3 weeks, do a conscious check-in and see how your relationship and overall well-being has changed or improved.
If you want to chat with me at anytime about this method, check out my schedule and book a consultation.
Here are some other things you can do in your Karezza sessions:
smile, especially when making eye contact
make skin-to-skin contact
give unsolicited approval with smiles or compliments
look into your partner’s eyes for a few moments
listen to your partner intently
silently forgive yourself or your partner for errors or thoughtlessness
synchronize your breathing with your partner’s
kiss your partner with your lips and tongue
cradle or gently rock your partner’s head or torso
hold or spoon your partner in stillness for at least half an hour
make wordless sounds of contentment or pleasure in front of your partner
stroke your partner with the intent to comfort them
massage your partner, especially on the feet, shoulders, or head
hug your partner with the intent to comfort them
lie with one ear over your partner’s heart to hear their heartbeat
suck or touch your partner’s nipples and breasts
place your hand gently over your partner’s genitals with the intention to comfort them
place your hand on your partners heart and have your partner do the same while eye gazing (you can imagine light or energy flowing from your hand into your partners heart for healing and connection)
If you want to learn more about Karezza, I highly recommend watching the YouTube video I mentioned earlier.
Happy Love Making,
- Nakula